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Haters will Broadcast Your Failure but Whisper Your Success

Haters will Broadcast Your Failure but Whisper Your Success

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One of my dear friends - actually, the very first #1 in North Carolina on ActiveRain - recently ran for public office. As soon as she announced, I reached out to see how I could help her with her campaign - I adore her and would do anything in the world to help her. 

 

Fast-forward just over a month, my friend didn't win the bid for the elected office. I personally don't feel that it was a total waste of time for her thought - she had wonderful RPAC support and spent a good chunk of change to advertise and got lots of great exposure. She did a wonderful job of advertising, ran a good, clean campaign and, as far as I'm concerned, shone an incredibly bright, positive light on our profession. 

 

I remarked about my friend's campaign in a group of other local agents, many of whom I would consider to be personal friends of mine. I was quite surprised at the backlash about my friend's campaign - quite frankly, I was the only one in the group who supported her!

 

Seriously, comments were not at all what I would have expected from my peers about someone who has done SO much for our local and state associations, NAR, CRS and is well known all across the nation. Quite frankly, it was pure jealousy! In fact, one agent asked me specifically how I could support my peer - how stupid of me because I "sent business to her because I supported her!" According to one agent, my friend actually "cost all agents in our MLS business" because she ran for political office. Yes, that was actually said. To me. In a public forum. 

 

Many quotes came to mind but, these two really hit home as I read all of the negativity. It's so true - if you shine, you're going to get a few rocks hurled at you!

#KeepShining

throwing rocks at those who shine

 

Hence, the quote - 

 

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Comment balloon 97 commentsDebe Maxwell, CRS • May 16 2019 04:14AM

Comments

Amazing the response your "peers" gave to this person's efforts.   You are a good friend and good person who sees it for what it is... not always about "business!"

Posted by Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty, Fifteen Years Experience in Brevard County (Bucci Realty, Inc.) 6 months ago

Sadly there will always be haters who throw rocks at good people who succeed. Pure jealousy.

Posted by Sharon Lee, Retired and loving life (Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance) 6 months ago

Good morning, Debe Maxwell, CRS this post is sooooo you.... you're just a gem and that's one reason you shine in your marketplace.... it always takes thick skin to be at the top.... but there are more benefits than being rock bottom... and jealousy will always exist... I love this post.... you are one very special gal and a true professional right to the core.

Posted by Barbara Todaro, Marketing Agent for The Todaro Team (RE/MAX Executive Realty ) 6 months ago

So true!

Posted by Ricardo Mello, Manhattan & Miami Real Estate Agent (Manhattan Miami Real Estate) 6 months ago

unfortunate for sure...if it was a partisan race...guessinng...that is not a surprise...and a consequence expected in political involvement .

Posted by Sally K. & David L. Hanson, WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce (EXP Realty 414-525-0563) 6 months ago

Good morning Debe - this is really sad but it reflects how deeply divided people are.

Posted by Grant Schneider, Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes (Performance Development Strategies) 6 months ago

Neat story.  Professional jealousy is rampant in every field.  But you never know when it will come back to bite you, so the best thing to do is to keep your jealous thoughts to yourself and try to find out why you feel that way!!! THEN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.  ha.

Thanks for this story with a good moral.

Posted by John Henry, Florida Architect, Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design (John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc.) 6 months ago

Debe,

There is no end to envy and abject stupidity.  We should applaud those who succeed in our opinion, because they set an example that it can be done.  A

Posted by Ron and Alexandra Seigel, Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy (Napa Consultants) 6 months ago

Good morning Debe. Had a similar experience with some associates taking aim at a true champion. Lost respect for many that day! Enjoy your day! 

Posted by Wayne Martin, Real Estate Broker - Retired (Wayne M Martin) 6 months ago

I totally understand how you feel. Have to keep the rock proof vest on and take the high road! 

Posted by faye schubert, Living the Branson Lake Life 6 months ago

Debe, unfortunately, jealousy abounds and nowadays, anything political seems to bring out the worst in people. I think I know who you are talking about and she can proudly hold her head high for putting herself out there in order to make a difference with grace and style. 

Posted by Silvia Dukes PA, Broker Associate, CRS, CIPS, SRES, Florida Waterfront and Country Club Living (Tropic Shores Realty - Ich spreche Deutsch!) 6 months ago

Here's what I remind myself about people who whisper behind others backs. 

1) Beware, they may talk about you or anyone.

2) They may be insecure or hiding their own flaws.

3) I try to take away a lesson of what not to do.

I'm sure this is something my mom taught me. 

It's too bad your friend didn't give her more support. Sometimes this business brings out the green eyed monster in people. We have to be the ones to set a good example. Kudos for you Debe!

Posted by Carla Freund, Carolina Life RealEstate & Relocation 919-602-8489 (Keller Williams Preferred Realty) 6 months ago

It is so true.  Clients who are happy might mention you to a friend or two.  But people who are unhappy will tell everyone they know and everyone they meet, loudly and vociferously.

Posted by Alan May, Helping you find your way home. (Jameson Sotheby's International Realty) 6 months ago

Hi Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty! You're so right - it's not always about business! I was so proud of her efforts and felt strongly that we, as a professional organization, should give one of our own, our support. I certainly did learn a lot about many of my peers though!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

She's wildly successful and manages a stellar team, Sharon Lee - I believe you're right, pure jealousy!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

Good morning Debe. I am sorry to read this because, in my view, it highlights jealousy.

Posted by Sheila Anderson, The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133 (Referral Group Incorporated) 6 months ago

Thank you so much, Barbara Todaro! There's really nothing accomplished when jealousy prevails. These very same peers didn't mind 'taking' from her when she was representing fervently, our organization. In this situation, it became clear to me, the takers will always take and the givers will always give. 

Happy Sunday!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

Hi Ricardo Mello! Thank you and I agree! LOL Happy Sunday!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

It was a partisan race and in my area, the registered independents out-number the dems or the reps. As a registered independent, I had no problem supporting her but, I can say with 100% sincerity that had I been on the opposite side of the spectrum (either way), I would have given her my support. Granted, I wouldn't have been able to vote for her but, I would have offered help with her campaign.

Happy Sunday, Sally K. & David L. Hanson!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

That is so true, Grant Schneider - sad but, true! As I mentioned to Sally, if I were on opposites sides of the political spectrum from her, I still would have supported her.

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

Thank you for your kind words, John Henry! I do agree, keeping your thoughts to yourself if you don't agree is most often, the best course of action!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

Qualifications unfortunately are what always any election...

Posted by Sally K. & David L. Hanson, WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce (EXP Realty 414-525-0563) 6 months ago

HARMED all of us??  That's got to be one of the more ridiculous statements I've seen lately.  And they're only worried about her increased PR gaining her business?  SMH....  Insert Pogo quote about meeting the enemy.

Posted by Liz and Bill Spear, RE/MAX Elite Warren County OH (Cincinnati/Dayton) (RE/MAX Elite 513.520.5305 www.LizTour.com) 6 months ago

When asked different questions about who and why, the man replied why do you ask me? Go ask them I have spoken with and they will tell you. My point? To live a life where one is transparent, confident and reachable, this is the true life

Posted by Richie Alan Naggar, agent & author (people first...then business Ran Right Realty ) 6 months ago

The people that are going to hate on others aren't people that I want to be around, surely they are hating on me too, haha.  I love seeing the success of others, as long as they did not cheat to achieve that success.

Posted by Brian England, MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ (Arizona Focus Realty) 6 months ago

She has been setting an example for years in our marketplace and I do believe that envy has overpowered any rational or kind feelings. Sadly, voter turnout was quite dismal and we, as her professional peers, could have made the difference in the election results. Jealousy stood in the way of the masses, for sure!

Enjoy your Sunday, Ron and Alexandra Seigel!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

Oh, Wayne Martin, I so agree and I share those feelings of disappointment and loss of respect for many. It really does make me sad. 

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

I like the rock-proof vest comment, faye schubert and I swear, she has donned one! She is holding her head high and I couldn't be more proud to call her friend and peer.

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

Hi Debe,
Jealousy was the first thing that came to mind as you delved into this story.  Those who are threatened by others are insecure in their own value.

Posted by Carol Williams, Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager (Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals.) 6 months ago

I'm sure you know who she is, Silvia Dukes PA, Broker Associate, CRS, CIPS, SRES and yes, I am so proud of her - she definitely exited the polls with grace and class.

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

I love your green-eyed monster comment, Carla Freund and you're so right - whomever shared the 'facts of life' on talking behind someone's back knew the way of the world, for sure! 

Happy Sunday, Carla! 

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

You're right, Alan May, this principle rings true when it comes to clients too. 

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

That is totally the highlight, Sheila Anderson  - sadly but, that is definitely the bottom line.

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

She came in 4th in a field of 9 and I believe was in the top 2 when it came to qualifications, Sally K. & David L. Hanson

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

I just popped over and snagged the comment, Liz and Bill Spear - here it is:

"you do realize that the votes she got are taking potential clients away from the other 6,000 realtors in this group under the guise of political campaigning? We are all competitors and advocating for another realtor to get more exposure irregardless of their political affiliation is counterintuitive to good business."

"Counterintuitive to good business?" Really?! Yes, I'm smh too!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

Agreed on every level, Richie Alan Naggar

Happy Sunday to you!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

You're so right, Brian England - I'm sure that because I supported her efforts, they're talking about me behind my back too. But, you know, I'm proud of the integrity with which she ran her campaign and I'm proud of her as a colleague too.

Evidently she has simply set the bar too high for these other numb-skulls! LOL

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

You're so right, Carol Williams! My clients are not going to her just because I supported her political efforts.

I tried to explain that and got, "Yeah, just wait until she lists one of your buyers houses. You'll see how smart it was to support someone in our own business." The dialog was unbelievable and as Wayne said above, I lost a lot of respect for a number of my peers this week.

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

Hello Debe - it's interesting but not too surprising in some ways.  Very telling for sure.  Great post title and love the quote you chose.  

Posted by Michael Jacobs, Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393 6 months ago

Hi again Debe Maxwell, CRS 
I'm willing to guess you are way more successful, respected and well-liked than any of those who criticized you for your support of a peer. 

Posted by Carol Williams, Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager (Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals.) 6 months ago

Wow, I love that quote. It doesn't get truer than that.

Posted by Jill Sackler, LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate (Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500) 6 months ago

Jealousy, insecurity, poor self-images all seem to be possible reasons why the people you mentioned reacted the way they did. Would any of them have had the balls to get out there and put in the time, effort, energy in running for an office? Nope. 

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty) 6 months ago

That is small minded thinking, loaded with jealousy.  So sad for folks that think that way.

Posted by Chris Ann Cleland, Associate Broker, Bristow, VA (Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA) 6 months ago

Featured in the group:  BARTENDER, MAKE IT A DOUBLE.

Posted by Chris Ann Cleland, Associate Broker, Bristow, VA (Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA) 6 months ago

Thanks for sharing this experience.

Sadly, this is typical in the residential real estate industry. People want to bring you down to their level.

Posted by Roy Kelley (Realty Group Referrals) 6 months ago

Liz and Bill Spear - Oh, you are so right - I should have thought of that retort! Dang! I should have consulted you when the conversation was taking place! LOL

I SO agree, Silvia Dukes PA, Broker Associate, CRS, CIPS, SRES - they're also the ones who thought getting into real estate was all about donning high heels and driving their convertible around the city to show houses...and that's all there was to real estate in their minds! 

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

Sometimes my naiveté comes out when I least expect it to, Michael Jacobs! I was truly shocked at the level of jealousy among my peers. I suppose I should have expected it!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

I don't think anyone dislikes me here but, you just never know - it seems like jealousy is more prevalent than I thought, Carol Williams! Thank you so much for your kind words.

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

Thank you, Jill Sackler - I hope she heeds those words too!
 

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

Great observation, Kat Palmiotti and you're so right - none of them are active in our association or anything to do with our profession. Great point! 

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

I completely agree, Chris Ann Cleland - it's truly their loss as the 'good old boy' won the bid again so, it will simply be more of the same that everyone has been railing against. And, thank you so much for the feature!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

A really good point, Roy Kelley! I have no desire to stoop - today or ever! 

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

Debe Maxwell, CRS  You are my sunshine- You say it so much better  

Posted by Hannah Williams, Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-953-8818 (Re/Max Eastern inc.) 6 months ago

Hi Debe Maxwell, CRS sadly I've seen exaxtly this type of situation happen over and over during my years in real estate. It is jealousy and some kind of fear that they're losing out or giving up something. I simply don't get why this continues within our profession but it does to this day. I know it personally.

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, GRI, WLS, 603-380-4886 (Phoenix Property Shoppe) 6 months ago

                                                   Featured in BananaTude Group

 

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, GRI, WLS, 603-380-4886 (Phoenix Property Shoppe) 6 months ago

Wow, Debe, what a shame. A great person who could have been good for their businesses by promoting  and voting for laws that help homeownership. So sad that jealousy created this lack of support for her.

Posted by Marney Kirk, Towson, Maryland Real Estate (Cummings & Co. Realtors) 6 months ago

LOL You're so cute, Hannah! I tell you, I took on a flock of angry geese in that group - and all alone too! It was not fun but, I was not going to let them bash my friend the way they were doing and not have a clear voice of reason stating the truth to every single one of their nasty comments too!

@Hannah Williams 

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

You know this agent too, Anna.  And you know, you can't feel sorry for her - she's strong and very thick-skinned. But, good golly Miss Molly, there was absolutely no reason to attack her the way they did.

I don't understand it either; it really is a poor reflection of the character of some of our peers. 

Thank you for the banana, Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, CRS 602-380-4886 - I'm honored! 

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

Oh, Marney Kirk, those were my sentiments exactly! I did learn that no matter what I said, they piled on with the negativity. So, I think that there was simply no voice of reason that could have been heard over the ringing sound of jealousy coming from each and every one of them!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

So I think it might be a women supporting women thing too. They say that we are the absolute worst in helping our peers. In fact, Cheryl Sandberg just said the exact same thing in an interview last week. Women want women to succeed (so they say) but backstab them every step of the way. How is that going to help elevate our sex to success?

 

Posted by Lyn Sims, Schaumburg IL Real Estate (RE/MAX Suburban) 6 months ago

You're so right, Lyn Sims! I'm a woman and don't understand the mentality - it's totally prohibitive to our success. We are far more critical and less forgiving as a whole.  

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

HI Debe Maxwell, CRS - I think the most important part of this is that you supported your friend. What can be better than that? Nothing else or no one else matters.

Posted by Sheri Sperry - MCNE®, (928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR® (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) 6 months ago

So sad to think this way.   Unfortunately there will always be some haters out there.  As my momma said to me -pick yourself up and dust yourself off and keep moving forward.   Never look behind just strive for better. Better days and better ways to improve tne mindset of others.

Posted by Rose Mary Justice, Synergy Realty Pros (Synergy Realty Pros) 6 months ago

How very sad that people lead with hate Debe. There is an agent from KW in San Diego that threatened the President just because he was scheduled to speak during the NAR Conference. I tried several times in the last few days to contact his broker to no avail (will keep trying). I wish there was more support among Realtor’s, after all we represent the same industry with the clients goals in mind. So sorry you experienced that and your friend became the subject of such unwarranted negativity.

Posted by Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!, So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR (Prado Real Estate South) 6 months ago

You're right, Sheri Sperry - MCNE® - they don't matter to me and they shouldn't. I was truly surprised at the negativity and did lose a good deal of respect for quite a few people. I'm sure my friend did as well!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

Rose Mary Justice - I love what your Momma said - she was so right! It's just discouraging to know that if my peers don't have this gal's back, they'll never have mine either!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

Oh my gosh, if I would have known you were going to NAR, I would have made a point to get there, Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! I did not hear of the threat but, good grief - can people not put politics aside and embrace the here and now? Learn from it and move on, right?! UGH!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

I know an agent who’s going through something similar. So sad

Posted by Melissa Spittel, "Achieving Results Together " (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) 6 months ago

It is sad, Melissa Spittel - they should be supporting her, not trying to tear her down! 

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

This reminds me of high school; I went to an all girls high school. And I notice it today, long past school. I never heard of this phrase, though. It's going up on my bulletin board:
People will broadcast your failures...that part alone is pure evil.
And whisper your success...I would not want a person who thinks this way for a friend.

Posted by Zippy in Baltimore 6 months ago

Debe Maxwell, CRS maxwell
Loves the post - onward and upward - leaving those negative folks behind! All the best - Lynn

Posted by Lynn B. Friedman, Concierge Service for Our Atlanta Sellers & Buyers (Atlanta Homes ODAT Realty Call/Text 404-939-2727 Buckhead - Midtown - Westside -- and more ...) 6 months ago

I so understand and appreciate your post.  LOVE the title as it's true.  Anyone who does a great job, is a good person in business and in their personal life - ANYONE is subject to criticism.  No matter if they are good or not.  Good for you for seeing things clearly!

Posted by Jan Green, HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN (Value Added Service, 602-620-2699) 6 months ago

Debe,

The small-minded rock chuckers do not do themselves any favors.  There is an "odor" about folks who are so insecure and the public has a good nose.

Posted by Dana Basiliere, Making deals "Happen" (Rossi & Riina Real Estate) 6 months ago

Debe, this says a whole lot more about the people throwing stones than your friend. Unnecessary to say the least but. it would sure make me question their character. Showing their true colors. I think if you reach any type of success there's going to be haters. That green-eyed monster comes out when someone is intimidated by another persons success. Kudos to you for standing up to them for her, she has a loyal friend in you. 

Posted by Amanda S. Davidson, Alexandria Virginia Homes For Sale (Amanda Davidson Real Estate Group Brokered By eXp Realty) 6 months ago

I can so relate to this. I was up for re-appointment to a City Planning Commission, and with no warning, got thrown under the bus by two City Council Members. It was quite a public show, on video for anyone to see. Lovely.

Posted by Thom Abbott, Midtown Atlanta GA Condos For Sale (MyMidtownMojo.com |770.713.1505 | Intown Atlanta GA Condo Living) 6 months ago

Debb, this is so true. This is why I do not spend one minute of my time wasting it on haters.

Posted by Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty, Florida Space Coast Homes (Waves Realty) 6 months ago

The green -eyed monster is an ugly one, that's for sure. It's also true that we have a lot of haters running around today - a sad state of affairs.

Posted by Marte Cliff, Your real estate writer (Marte Cliff Copywriting) 6 months ago

Debe,  I will just say it.  I. am. not. surprised. at. all. I see so much negativity and hate in the world today.  That includes peeps in our profession. It causes me to just stick to myself more and more.  I just have no patience or tolerance for it. Ignorance and stupidity live all around us. 

Posted by Kathleen Daniels, San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist (KD Realty - 408.972.1822) 6 months ago

Both of those quotes are so true...and perhaps all of us are guilty of saying negative things about other agents--re: their behavior in a deal.  Running for office takes a lot of guts, time, money--something I could never do but admire those who feel the urge!

Posted by Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR, Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area (Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes) 6 months ago

People don't know how to be kind to each other anymore. That's really sad. Whatever happened to the old saying "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"???

Posted by Renae Bolton, I'm your Professional Real Estate Marketing VA! (Marketing 4 Realtors) 6 months ago

Debe Maxwell, CRS When you are a true friend you can share good times and success! Glad you were able to support your friend. 

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) 6 months ago

Hi Debe, Ironic that I ran into her Dad a couple days before the election and we were discussing how nasty politics have become these days with all the haters out there and people that just make stuff up. So sad this happens to so many good people.  Hope you and your family are doing well!

Posted by Mitch Muller - Charlotte NC Real Estate, Certified Residential Specialist (ProStead Realty Charlotte, NC CRS SRES mitch@prostead.com) 6 months ago

Unforunately, Debe, much of what we see on the national political scene is being played out locally as well.  People contrary about the wrong things, in some cases deterriorating to a psychopathic entitlement to make things up and attack without merit or substantiation.  Agree with Kathleen Daniels.  Glad so many of your readers see through the agenda.  It does take super tough skin to run, perhaps she can regroup with even stronger support and run again.

Posted by Kris Collis, Associate Broker, Professional Results you Expect 570-507-7510 (Smart Way America Realty) 4 months ago

Debe, here's another quote:

"A glowing woman can help other women glow and still be lit." 

-Betty Rocker via Instagram

Posted by Kris Collis, Associate Broker, Professional Results you Expect 570-507-7510 (Smart Way America Realty) 4 months ago

@Zippy in Baltimore - You dissected the quote just as I would have. It is truly sad.

And, you're so right, Lynn B. Friedman - onward and upward! I had the opportunity to see my friend this week and was horrified to hear that the gossip/rumors/untruths continue. It taught me a valuable lesson though - I will never run for political office!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 4 months ago

I do adore her, Jan Green and absolutely hate that she's still dealing with this - well after the election. She deserves so much better but, I do believe in Karma for those who have been so rude to her. 

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 4 months ago

Hi Dana Basiliere! I love your phrase, 'small-minded rock chuckers' - it's true and really so sad. These people are indeed insecure - the problem is theirs, not my friend's.

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 4 months ago

You know, the irony in all of this is - we are in a nation that is pushing PC on us all. Yet, when being civil and throwing stones is in THEIR favor, they forget all about how they talk to or treat others.

I will continue to stand by her, Amanda S. Davidson - she deserves nothing less than for us ALL to stand by her.

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 4 months ago

My take on it is that people just have nothing to do in life - what makes them so vicious otherwise? I'm so sorry you had to experience that, Thom Abbott

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 4 months ago

Same here, Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty! I will say that I do try to 'change their minds' but, if they're just being mean to be mean, it's so not worth the time! They're never going to change.

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 4 months ago

Indeed he is, Marte Cliff! I don't understand the mentality and normally feel sorry that someone is so miserable, they treat others with such disrespect. When they hurt one of my friends, I have a hard time feeling sorry for them any longer!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 4 months ago

I agree, Kathleen Daniels and the older I get, the more I'm with you - stick with those you know you can trust and don't venture out from that comfort zone. I feel like the stupidity around us just keeps growing!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 4 months ago

Oh, I agree but, to publicly bash someone is just not in my DNA, Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR! You're so right - I will only admire from afar too - it will never be me! LOL

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 4 months ago

You're so sweet, Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland! And, yes, I was more than happy to support her, although I will say, it was disappointing to learn how shallow some of my peers are!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 4 months ago

Hi Mitch Muller - Charlotte NC Real Estate! I should have called you out in that group so you could help. What a jealous group of peers we have - unbelievable, isn't it? Love her Dad and it gave me great comfort to know that those closest to her were truly supportive and there for her when she needed them.

We are doing well and I do hope you are too! Take care and let's do a cross-sale together!!  

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 4 months ago

Thank you for your comment, Kris Collis and I completely agree with you. I did run into her this week and gave her a big bear hug! I can tell you that, after talking to her this week, she'll never run for public office again...and that's so sad because she would have represented her constituents so well. 

In the end, it's the 'haters' loss but, gosh, I know it hurts when you're hated on for no reason at all!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 4 months ago

Oh gosh, I love that quote, Kris Collis - and you know I totally agree with that!

Hope you're having a fantastic weekend!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 4 months ago

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