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Motivational Monday - Is it the Problem or Your Attitude?

Motivational Monday - Is it the Problem or Your Attitude?


We all know that ‘attitude is everything’ but, in the workplace, it can impact more lives than personally. One of my favorite quotes on this topic, brings a smile to my face. Yes, it's light-hearted but, it's SO true!


Is it the Problem or your attitude?


When we refer to a positive attitude, it’s not ‘surface cheer’ we’re talking about - it’s deep-rooted positivity that comes from within. While negativity is known to create a habitual ‘fight or flight’ state, narrowing focus and creating intimidation and fear, positivity goes the distance with broad focus, calming approaches to problems, tactical moves and opening up the field to more possibilities. 

Be kind 

I read a comment by another AR member this weekend - something about already knowing what particular members’ responses would be. 


When faced with a workplace problem, the Negative Nancy agent will respond with ‘that can’t be done,’ or ‘jump ship and try something else,’ or ‘fire them!’ 


Positive Paul with give you several options or solve it before you can even turn around…and with a smile on his face!


How do you maintain positivity in the workplace? Here are a few ideas:


  1. Surround yourself with positive people - positivity begets positivity is my mantra! My office culture needs to be positive, as do those who work for me. Also, sometimes if you’re seen often enough with the ‘office complainer (more on that below), you may very well get that same reputation.

  2. Don’t rely on others as your source of positivity though - you have to be responsible for your own responses and overall attitude.

  3. Fill your mind & body with positive input - that includes proper nutrition, perhaps listening to motivational speakers or music, etc.

  4. Embrace learning - Oftentimes negativity can be a reflection of insecurity which quite often stems from lack of knowledge. Educate yourself, educate others - this will help elevate your confidence level.

  5. For Pete's Sake, STOP COMPLAINING! Remember that complaining doesn’t impress anyone - especially when it has to do with the workplace. Complainers are often labeled just that - complainers - and are often avoided at all costs! I know I will put myself in front of another person, deep into conversation, to avoid a complainer coming my way!

laughter is the best medicine


Lastly, you will notice that the positive people in the world LOVE to laugh! Laughter is not only a sign of a positive person, it can lift others into a positive mindset as well!


Happy Positive Monday!


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Comment balloon 19 commentsDebe Maxwell, CRS • July 08 2019 06:30PM


Well I see people here some times with a piss ass attitude, they are the same ones that preach holier than though posts:)) but their actions speak volume... Loved this post  Debe indeed it is the Attitude that makes the difference... hope they will chime in so I can get a good laugh:)) no I will not call them out, they know who they are:)))Endre

Posted by Endre Barath, Jr., Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002 (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices) 11 months ago

Morning Debe.

Agents with an attitude usually doesn't last long in this business.  I find it interesting, when something goes wrong, it's never their fault.

Posted by James Dray, Exceptional Agents, Outstanding Results (Fathom Realty) 11 months ago

Attitude truly does make such a huge difference, not only in how WE feel, but in how we make others feel. I agree with your post!

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (406-270-3667,, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty) 11 months ago

Good morning, Debe Maxwell, CRS we act like the company we keep....surround yourself with positive thinking people and you'll be on the right track.... success breeds success.... surround yourself with successful people.

Posted by Barbara Todaro, Marketing Agent for The Todaro Team (RE/MAX Executive Realty ) 11 months ago

Good morning Debe. There are no good facts or bad facts. There are only facts. Our attitude decides good or bad. Enjoy your day!

Posted by Wayne Martin, Real Estate Broker - Retired (Wayne M Martin) 11 months ago

Last year, I made a very difficult decision to stop having relationships with toxic folks. People who, for one reason or another, don't add to the quality of a life well-lived. Kindness coupled with authenticity wins in my book everytime, and we need both to be the real deal. 

Posted by Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD, REALTORS® in Clark County, WA (ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors) 11 months ago

This is excellent advice to share. 

Have an outstanding week.

Posted by Roy Kelley (Realty Group Referrals) 11 months ago

Hi Debe Maxwell, CRS Love this quote and post!  I am a big believer in being positive and spreading positivity.  I learned a long time ago to walk away from toxic people and situations - who needs that? Not my Circus, not my Monkeys!


Laughter is not only a sign of a positive person, it can lift others into a positive mindset as well!

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten Arizona's Top Banana!, 602-380-4886 (HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000) 11 months ago

Debe sometimes I wonder if the only time some people are happy is when they are complaining the most!

Posted by George Souto, Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert (George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages) 11 months ago

Hi Debe Maxwell, CRS, some are habitual complainers, no matter what their situation is. It's all about our mindset and how we wish to live. Great post!

Posted by Beth Atalay, Cam Realty of Clermont FL (Cam Realty and Property Management) 11 months ago

Good morning Debe Maxwell, CRS - spot on!  How did I ever miss this.  Thank you Carol Williams .

Posted by Grant Schneider, Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes (Performance Development Strategies) 11 months ago

I read it the first time and was happy to read it again today, Debe. And thanks to Carol Williams Saturday series of Second Chances.

Posted by Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD, REALTORS® in Clark County, WA (ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors) 11 months ago

I am so trying to catch up on my time in the Rain, Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD and Carol is actually on my list of people to catch up with! Thank you for the heads-up and the sweet comment!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, The right Charlotte REALTOR! ( | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 11 months ago

Good morning Debe Maxwell, CRS ,

I'm so glad that Carol Williams featured this post in her Second Chance Saturday Series. Laughter is the best medicine and no one wants to be around a complainer! Spreading positivity  should always be the course of action..we are problem solvers and should be able to make a win/win in every case if we try hard enough. At least that should always be the goal.

Posted by Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR, Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate (Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899) 11 months ago

I love this post and love the comments. When it comes to happiness, it can come from nowhere else but ourselves and our own outlook on life.


Posted by Marte Cliff, Your real estate writer (Marte Cliff Copywriting) 11 months ago

Beautiful post-Debe Maxwell, CRS  so glad sister Carol Williams  Featured this is second chance Saturday as I missed this one 

Posted by Hannah Williams, Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-953-8818 (Re/Max Eastern inc.) 10 months ago

Hi Debe:

I love the positivity in this post. It is so right on about our business, but also life in general. Some just need to complain about everything and being around someone like that is so unpleasant and such a downer.

Hope you are enjoying your weekend in Denver!


Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (eXp Realty of California) 9 months ago

Good afternoon Debe Maxwell, CRS ,

I'm so surprised this post didn't receive a gold star..positively right on about all phases of living! I'm glad that Carol Williams featured it in her Second Chance Saturday the comments and hope you things are going well in Denver! 

Posted by Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR, Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate (Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899) 9 months ago

Excellent post, Debe.  We all fight the tendency to despondency when things aren't going well.  Sometimes it goes to the wire and the turnaround is last minute and not pretty. 
Better to continue to stay on top of things and think right.

Having a positive attitude in dire circumstances is very difficult to muster.

Thanks for the pep talk!  Debe Maxwell, CRS 

Posted by John Henry, Florida Architect, Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design (John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc.) 9 months ago

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